Boundaries - those distinctions we make between ourselves and others, between you and your daughter, your wife, husband, boss, between your emotions and your friends’ feelings, between the thoughts inside yourself and the outside world, between criticism and your knowledge of self. The innumerable distinctions that make you unique AND allow you to connect - to be vulnerable, open and available to others, to the world around you.

Sometimes people think of boundaries as walls that separate - they do indeed separate but only turn into walls when the separation becomes rigid, static and fixed. What happens when there’s no separation, no distinctions, when all is one, the same? That is as much a prison as the one built of walls. When you and I are the same - fused together, there is no space for you, the individual. Of course, sometimes it is good to have walls to protect or desirable to be one with nature, with another human being.

But without knowledge of what human boundaries are, how they come to be, how we create and maintain them we are condemned to unknowingly bounce between walls (escape into isolation when life and relationships become overwhelming) and no boundaries (too often an escape from individual responsibility for our own happiness into an illusion of togetherness) – never really safe and never really connecting.

 What you will learn:
 

• The structure of boundaries

• The three levels of boundaries

• How to recognize them

• The developmental patterns that support them

• The basic skills that create and maintain boundaries

• To identify your special challenges

• To communicate more effectively with difficult people

• To utilize boundaries in order to work with and communicate with parts - the different aspects of you and me. 

• Use the Parts Model in-depth - a unique approach to truly learning about your inner world - yours and others

• Utilize the metaphor of the “inner family of parts” and the guidelines for a functional inner world - accessing otherwise unavailable information

• Recognize and overcome objections to being either separate or connected

• Make the boundary skills second nature § Utilize boundaries as your primary resource - using them to make important changes and resolve conflicts

• Improve your awareness and expression of your emotions

• Discover your essential being ness, your true and comprehensive identity

• Relate to yourself in ways that make self-esteem an ever-evolving process

• Heal yourself by slowing down, being in the present, accepting and forgiving

This training emphasizes experiential learning. There is a combination of didactic presentations, demonstrations of the information, group experiences and small group exercises. You will participate in hands-on exercises in which you will literally experience the presented information. The harmony - the flow between information and experience - is further enhanced with stories, real-life examples and guided fantasies.

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